I had a really fun date yesterday with my friend Hilde's queerplantonic partner Simon. We had agreed that he would get to pick the location for our date, and me the activity and he picked that we would go Urbex'ing. But when I went to the meeting spot, he said. "See that huge skyscaper living tower? On top of that is the highest rooftop terrace of Brussels, and I've been wanting to see it forever. In ten minutes we have an appointment with a real estate agent, because we want to invest in a property there, and we're going to convince her to show us the terrace and let us hang out there. Are you ready?" 🤩 I did not expect to go on a heist within 10 minutes of my date! I felt a bit bad about wasting the time of the real estate lady, but it was very high end building, a high end real estate agent, and when we were in the apartment, she pointed at the very cool nearly community-run place and said "Those squats should get removed soon, this place will really start to return on its investment in about 10 years". After that, I didn’t feel so bad anymore. She also had no interest in our elaborate backstory. The roof terrace was indeed very cool. Then we got some coffee and hung out in a skate park, and we played "Curious date or serial killer?" where you ask each other questions that could be asked either by an inquisitive first date or a serial killer (and answer them). “Do you run? What is your fastest time?” “Are you trusting of strangers?” “If you were to die of natural causes, what is the most likely cause?” I also prepared a blindfolded dancing game, so my last question was "Can I blindfold you?" and he was like "Um.. right now?" and I was like "Yup!". I had forgotten he was still playing the serial killer game 😅 So I lead him into a blindfolded dance on Space Odyssey (his favorite song of the moment) but he was so insanely trusting that I almost had to slow him down instead of being able to freak him out 😄 We already touched quite a bit during the dance, and we ended it face to face, two seconds away from kissing each other. I could see it. But I wasn’t done yet. I left the two seconds where they were, and said “Sit down, now we are playing the three-minute game”. I did a messy job of explaining, but he was up for it, so we began. What does he want me to do for him? Cuddle him. This was very cute and we got to touch each other’s bodies a lot What do I want him to do for me? Play with my hair. This got very hot very fast. We did it face to face and he really got to showcase his firm touch (<3) and I got to showcase my awesome responsiveness. Some very good almost kissing moments What do I want to do with him? Touch his face. This is where I found out how sensitive his ears are. “I think by some definitions of sex, we’ve had sex now” What does he want to do with me? Kiss me. He worked up to it slowly, and then we kissed. Aaaaaah so good. We debriefed the game, and he admitted that taking was very difficult for him. So I suggested doing another round of freeflow taking. No pre-arranged activities and consent now, but just free play and that he should definitely give feedback or tell me to stop when appropriate. This. was. Super. Hot. I go first and do some shibari style manipulations, but he makes good use of his turn again and it feels amazing. He has a very, very good touch. After that, I’m out of games and we just make out for quite an amount of time. We sit opposite each other and I put my legs over his, intending to sit in that comfortable tantric position. But he grabs me and pulls me into his lap. I don’t sit on a lot of laps. Most people think I’m heavy and even if they don’t, I’m afraid to be heavy, so I don’t even go there. But he wants me there. It is clearly so much his thing. And so I want to be there, and it’s a new thing to want. I feel really warm here, wanted and cherished. It feels very good. Oh, and while we make a stop at a small supermarket, and wait for the cashier to appear, he grabs me and we make out while we wait. WE MAKE OUT WHILE WE WAIT. Jan will know how much I appreciate this moment :D We debrief our date. “I had a lot of fun”, I said. “This is great data for my hypothesis. How about you?” He says “You are completely crazy and I like it”. We agree on zero relationship expectations. “But I would like to see you somewhat soon”, he says. What a coincidence, I want that too!