Hello, This is Mazdak and today I'm going to talk about 5 steps to get your shit together.step one change your environment youcan't have a positive mindset in anegative environment I don't care howgreat your mindset is it's like being ina commercial grade freezer if you'restanding in that freezer and you thinkyou have a positive mental attitude noyou're going to be cold but if I takeyou out of that freezer and I put youunder a heat lamp you're going to warmup you're human understand that you arebuilt to be influenced by people aroundyou so how do we change your environmentnumber one is you got to look at yourfriend group see a lot of people talkabout you become the average of The FivePeople You spend the most time withactually that's not it you become theaverage of The Five People You allow toinfluence you the good news is is youcan allow yourself to be influenced bypeople online think of it as like whoyou give your power of opinion to inlegal they call it the power of attorneyI think it is power of opinion you canchoose the people that you would allowto influence you you can think aboutthose people and say what would they dowhat would the people that you admirethat have achieved the thing that youwant to do how would they assess yourdecisions so often times one of thefastest ways that you can just resetyour environment is to move changecities go to a new school take a new jobI know that sounds crazy for a lot ofyou but I've done it several times in mycareer and every time it's allowed me toreset who I wanted to become not thatthere's anything wrong in who I was atmy core but I knew if I wanted to go toanother level I had to be around peoplethat were way higher and further alongthan me I believe that my vibe attractsMy Tribe so if my energy is good I'mgoing to attract other good people theproblem is if you're the smartest personon your street if you're the richestperson on your street you got to movestreets if you're the wealthiest personamongst your friend group you got tofind a new group of friends if you'rethe big dog in your city find a new cityyour container where you livecommunicates your identity to everybodyelse and to yourself and if you're notabsolutely freaking proud around all thethings around you then you got toupgrade your identity you got to upgradeyour friends here's what I believe mostpeople are scared to let go becausethey're worried that they won't find anew group of friends to hang out withbut you won't have the time in yourcalendar to go even Explore you won'thave the time if you don't start sayingno saying no to your current life allowsyou to say yes to your potential futurewhich leads us directly into step twowhich is just backing do it there's areason why it's a license plate on mycar a long time ago I discovered thatthe gap between knowing something anddoing something is the delay as soon asyou know you have to default to act ifyou're reading a book and there's apassage a chapter a paragraph thatyou're like damn that's really smart putthe book down go do something with it ifyou're talking to a mentor and he givesyou advice and you're like oh my goshthat's so smart why am I not doing thatgo do it if something I've ever sharedwith you moves you inside you have likea feeling around it default to actionit's all about closing the knowing anddoing Gap where there's no more Gap jfdijust freaking do it most people sitthere and they overanalyze and theythink about it and they ruminate andthey SP spiral in their head is this theright decision what would happen whatwill people think how about before youget inside your head you just do mostpeople would rather play it safe andtalk to people about their decisionstheir actions doing the thing thanactually doing the thing and it's funnycuz they'll waste time 10 times moretime talking about it thinking about itwriting it down how about no writing itdown and just doing it how about noscheduling and just doing it how aboutno planning for it and just doing itthat muscle is the muscle that has to bebuilt for entrepreneurs to takeadvantage of opportunities which leadsdirectly into step three which is don'tblame anyone or anything go look in themirror after I got sober I found itinteresting I didn't tell anybody what Iwas doing or how they should act butover time everyone around me got sobereveryone around me decided to quit drugsstop drinking so much and in my lifetoday many people don't even drinkanymore and often times I get messagessaying hey man I've been sober for 9months thanks to you you shared yourstory and it made me really reflect onwhat I was doing in my life what I loveabout that is they decided to not blameother people they decided to takecontrol of what they had the power tocontrol see if you defer your power tosomebody else by saying it's like well Icould do it if my wife was on board thenyou're making your change dependent onsomebody else who you cannot control MyPhilosophy is very simple nobody has tochange for me to win if you want to seepeople change around you then you haveto be the example in a relationship Ithink it comes down to this I will Focus100% on me and I'll expect that youfocus 100% on you so that we both havemore of each other for each other thinkabout that many people use other folksin their life as the reason for failureI can't do this cuz I have kids howabout because you have kids how aboutbecause you have a family how about thefact that your parents were obese andunhealthy that you decide to get in thebest shape in your life so that you havethe chance to have any kind of influenceover these people versus using them asthe reason then you can't get your stufftogether most people would rather pointto somebody else which is interestingcuz when you do that you have threefingers pointing back at yourself itallows you to not be accountable allowsyou to not have to be honest withyourself saying that person whether theydid that or didn't do that doesn'tchange the way I responded I could haveused that as feedback to go be betterbut instead I'm like oh that's thereason I can't win or you could go Icreated this situation I allowed thatperson into my life I decided to have arelationship with that person these areall things you can control and don'tgive the power up to somebody else totake away the power for you to changeyour life which leads us directly intostep four which is it's easier to avoidthe dragon than to slay it most peoplethat want to get in shape the number onemove they could make is to grab all thejunk food all the snacky stuff all thethings that they know would be aslippery slope if they ate and put it ina box and give it to somebody that needsthe food it's easier to avoid the dragonthan to slay it most people are like ohyeah no I've got mental toughness youcould do that or you could just designthe game to be easier to play before Igo to bed I put out my clothes for thenext morning why cuz when the alarm goesoff at 400 in the morning and I got toget up and go to the gym if I don't havethings just set up properly and I'mtrying to like overcome the desire tonot get up that early there's a goodchance that I'm probably not going tomake the best decision if you go to abarbecue you can decide to show up aftereverybody's eaten and then enjoy thefestivities without having to be enticedjust make these decisions it's alwayseasier to avoid the situation than totry to bring on the motivation themental toughness to say no I just decideto avoid the whole situation altogetherit's like a family gathering when youknow if you go there your uncle's goingto say something and then he's going totalk crap and then you're going to haveto respond or you can just not go youcan decide my mental health my emotionsI'm just happier when I'm not aroundthat person you're allowed to say no Icoach so many people on getting theirFitness together and they go well Idon't want to eat different than myfamily and I go hm why is that well Idon't want them to feel like I'm betterthan them or that they feel guilty foreating in front of me it's like wellwhen you go to a restaurant do you eatthe same meal as everybody else orderedno you don't so don't lie to yourselfthat other people's feelings that's whatit is most people use other people'sfeelings as the reason to not stayconsistent as the reason to not avoidthe dragging you're allowed to take allthe food and throw it out and ifsomebody wants to have a certain type offood have them save it somewhere else inthe house be like hey put it in aCupboard where I'll never go to don'tinvite me to that family gathering goingforward this person I don't need them inmy life please don't invite me toanything they participate you can askpeople to support you in your dreams andyour goals so that you don't even haveto be the person that makes the decisionjust make it once let them know hold thestandard which brings us directly intostep five which is stop being socritical of yourself I know this all toowell I actually have a guy on my teamand it's supernatural but anytimesomething happens that he sees that he'sinvolved in or even arms length hethinks it's about him he thinks he didsomething wrong and I get it sometimesthis happens to me where somebody willsay something and I think well did I saysomething wrong like why are they upsetand it's not even true what's crazy ismost of the time that that person on myteam is worried when I ask them why thesituation had nothing to do with that sohere's what you do first thing I wantyou to consider is to lift your headinstead of looking at your feet andworry about like is this about me isthis about me is this about me I wantyou to lift your eyes up and look overthe horizon focus on a vision focus onthe future focus on what are you tryingto create who are the people that youwant around you who can you serve withyour message who can you serve with yourservices Tony Robin says this often ifyou get inside your head you're deadwhen you see yourself spiral do one offour things number one gratitude Visionfuture I'm trying to create threeworkout four go help somebody that getsme back on the path and helps me spiralup instead of spiraling down whathappens is high performers have thetendency to be really hard on themselvesthere's a thin line between being hardon yourself that impacts yourperformance versus hard on yourselfbecause it's feedback for you to getbetter the difference is is where arethe feedbacks coming from so that's whyyou want to pay somebody else to giveyou feedback because when I pay forcoaching that information landsdifferently than when I'm saying thosesame words to myself in my head peoplebeat themselves down because they createthe situation that they want to moveaway from they need the pain to be ableto push against it instead of thefeedback from somebody else that'strying to make you better then you'regoing to want to live up to their expectexpectations not necessarily push awayfrom the pain that you've created bytrying to tell yourself how bad you areto try to push you forward that desireto step into somebody's greatness thatthey see you through their eyes is wayeasier than trying to overcome thenegative talk that you use to propel youforward which leads us directly into.Thats it and thanks for listening.