Facing Mortality: Why Death Feels So Distant in the 21st Century? In the 21st century, death often feels like a distant, almost alien concept for many people, particularly in affluent, developed societies. Unlike our ancestors, who experienced death as an integral part of life, we’ve constructed a world where it’s easy to push mortality to the background. Death has become something to fear, avoid, or ignore altogether - until we are forced to confront it. But why has this shift occurred, and how has it shaped the way we live, grieve, and think about the end of life? Death in Historical Context For most of human history, death was an intimate, familial, and communal experience. People died at home, surrounded by loved ones, and families actively participated in the rituals of caring for the body and preparing for burial. Death was not sanitized or hidden; it was a visible reminder of life’s fragility and a catalyst for collective mourning and reflection. Take, for instance, the early 19th century. When someone passed away, neighbors and friends would gather to pay their respects, help the grieving family, and participate in ceremonies that affirmed the continuity of life. Children grew up seeing these events, learning from a young age that death was a natural part of existence. While loss was undoubtedly painful, it wasn’t unfamiliar. It was part of the rhythm of life. This began to change dramatically in the 20th century with the advent of modern medicine and technology. Vaccines, antibiotics, and other medical breakthroughs extended life expectancy and reduced child mortality rates significantly. As a result, the average person encountered death far less frequently. Hospitals became the default setting for end-of-life care, replacing the home as the primary space for dying. While these changes saved countless lives, they also distanced us from the process of death, making it feel clinical and impersonal. The Impact of Modern Society Modern society’s emphasis on individualism and perpetual progress has further reshaped our relationship with mortality. Today, cultural narratives often focus on personal achievement, growth, and the pursuit of happiness. Advertising and media glorify youth, vitality, and the illusion of control over our lives. Within this framework, death is perceived as a disruption - a failure, even - that we’d rather not acknowledge. Consider how the language around death has evolved. People often avoid direct terms, opting instead for euphemisms like “passed away” or “lost.” While these phrases are intended to soften the impact, they also reflect a discomfort with confronting mortality head-on. In doing so, they contribute to the broader cultural tendency to obscure and minimize death. This avoidance is particularly evident in how we handle grief. In many Western societies, mourning has become a private, almost hidden process. Social norms often pressure individuals to move on quickly, to “keep going” and “stay strong.” Public displays of grief can feel out of place in a world that prioritizes productivity and positivity. This isolation not only compounds the pain of loss but also reinforces the idea that death is something to be managed quietly and alone. Cultural Contrasts Not all cultures share this detached view of death. In Mexico, for instance, Día de los Muertos offers a radically different perspective. This annual celebration is a time to honor and remember deceased loved ones through vibrant rituals, including building altars, offering food and mementos, and sharing stories. Far from being somber, the event is a joyful affirmation of life and a recognition of the continued presence of those who have passed. For a beautifully artistic and heartfelt depiction of this tradition, the animated film Coco offers a touching introduction to Día de los Muertos, showcasing its emotional depth and cultural significance. Similarly, in certain Buddhist traditions, death is viewed as a transition rather than an ending. Monks meditate on the impermanence of life as a way to cultivate mindfulness and acceptance. These practices encourage people to engage with mortality directly, fostering a sense of peace rather than fear. Such examples remind us that our discomfort with death is not universal - it is shaped by specific cultural and historical contexts. They also suggest that there are alternative ways to approach mortality, ways that might bring us closer to understanding and accepting it. Rethinking Our Relationship with Death So how can we begin to shift our own perspectives? The first step is to open up conversations about death. Talking about mortality, though uncomfortable, is essential for breaking down the taboos that surround it. This doesn’t mean we need to dwell on morbid thoughts but rather to acknowledge that death is a natural, inevitable part of life. Public and personal rituals can also play a role. Whether it’s a formal ceremony, a shared meal, or simply spending time reflecting on loved ones who have passed, these practices help us confront and process the reality of death. They remind us that grief is not something to hide but a powerful expression of love and connection. Finally, we can draw inspiration from cultures that embrace death as part of life’s cycle. Incorporating elements of their traditions - whether it’s storytelling, art, or communal remembrance - can help demystify death and make it feel less isolating. Death is one of the few certainties in life, yet it remains one of the most challenging topics to address. By confronting our fears and reshaping our cultural attitudes, we can begin to bridge the gap between life and death. This isn’t about eliminating pain or sadness but about finding ways to live more fully in the face of life’s impermanence. Let’s start the conversation. Let’s remember that by talking about death, we can better appreciate life - and strengthen our connections with each other along the way.